An Ode to the Easily-Offended: You Are 100 Percent Responsible for Your Feelings, Whether You Like It or Not
REALITY CHECK: WE AREN’T REALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHER PEOPLE
Although I’ve said it many times and in many ways before, I feel that, given recent political developments all around the world and the emotional reaction to them, the following bears repeating: We are only responsible for five things in this world: Our personal thoughts, feelings, beliefs, words, and actions. Similarly, we are not responsible, in any way, shape, or form for the thoughts, feelings, beliefs, words, or actions of others.
This is not to say that society doesn’t hold us accountable for the things we aren’t personally responsible for, nor is it to say that society hasn’t accepted rules, laws, and regulations that seek to impose upon us punishment for the misguided actions of others, because it clearly has, but it is to say that this is a mistake.
I say this because personal responsibility is the cornerstone of all success and because what society has pushed upon is a system in which finger-pointing, “passing of the buck,” and the blaming of others for our own “problems” has become not only commonplace but also “common sense,” in that we are now expected to be “offended” by everything we disagree with and to, in many cases, react violently to it, as if we have absolutely no control over our emotions.
We have been trained by society, over the last several centuries, to believe that other people have the power to “hurt our feelings,” to “make” us feel a certain way, and to push our proverbial buttons, when, in fact, the only way anyone can hurt us is if we give them the ability to do so.
You see, pain is inevitable, but suffering (and “butt-hurt,” and being “offended” or “triggered,” etc.) are optional, in that people may choose to think, feel, believe, say, and do whatever they want, but it is ultimately up to us, as individuals, to decide what we want to think, feel, believe, say, and do in response to it. And when we make such decisions, we are 100% responsible for them–as in, not our father, not our mother, not our sister or our brother, not our teachers, our friends, or, least of all, some stranger on the street that we’ve never met or some anonymous individual on the Internet, but us.
IF YOU DON’T LIKE THE CARDS YOU’VE BEEN DEALT, ATTRACT ANOTHER DECK
Society can lie to you and tell you all day, every day that someone or something else is responsible for your life and everything in it, but the truth is, you are the one responsible for your circumstances. By way of your habitual thoughts, feelings, beliefs, words, and actions you have attracted everyone and everything in your life to you, whether you like it or not, and so it is incumbent upon you, if you don’t like the cards you’ve been dealt, to choose a different game or a different deck of cards.
Life is a mirror and the people, places, things, and circumstances that surround you are a reflection of who and what you are, on an energetic or vibrational level, albeit with a slight delay in it, so of you’re surrounded by bad news, people you don’t like, or feel stuck in a job you hate, then don’t just sit there and bitch about it on social media; do something about it! Change your thoughts, change your feelings, change your belief system, or the change the way you speak and behave, but whatever you do, do not–and I repeat, do not–ever dare to blame someone or something else for the state of your life.
As the old saying goes, guns don’t kill people; people do. And so it goes with everything in life. And until we, as a society, realize this and stop making excuses for not making use of the God-like powers we’ve all been given to create our own realities, we will continue to live lives of quiet desperation, as Henry David Thoreau once so eloquently said, completely at the mercy of circumstances we erroneously believe ourselves to have little to no control over.
Again, personal responsibility–that is, 100% ownership of our own thoughts, feelings, beliefs, words, and actions–are the cornerstone of all success. Conversely, a refusal to assume such responsibility is the foundation of all failure, and so, going forward, you can be “offended” by these facts, and drown in an ocean of other peoples’ emotions, or you can do what a true Manifestation Machine would do: Take control of the things within your control, stop trying to control the things you can’t, and create a reality that you can actually enjoy, instead of whining and crying about one you allowed someone else to create for you.
Thank you so much for taking time out of your busy schedule to be here today! I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this post as much as I enjoyed writing it!